Become Emotionally Intelligent

How to Increase EQ? How to manage your emotions?

Aayu Kharbanda
2 min readJul 23, 2021

Do emotions overwhelm you? Do you lose control and act irrationally? Emotion Management will be a game-changer in your life. This article will help you increase your Emotional Quotient (EQ).

What is Emotional Intelligence (EI)?

EI is the ability to understand, evaluate and control emotions.

Signs of Emotional Intelligence

· Thinking before Reacting: Logic over Emotions

· Greater Self Awareness: Understanding what you are feeling

· Empathy for others: Respond to others’ emotions

· Better Relationships: Form better connections with others

3 steps for Building EI

Emotional Intelligence is a learnable and improvable skill.3 steps to build it:

1. Understand the range of emotions

First step: Learning about the different emotions and their combinations

Basic Emotions— Happiness, Sadness, Fear, Disgust, Anger, and Surprise

All other emotions are a combination of these 6 emotions

For more information refer here

2. Perceiving Emotions

Acknowledging what you or someone is feeling. This is the ability to say — “I am feeling Sad”. This step is really power.

Saying — “I am feeling Angry because X did Y “ — will reduce your anger.

3. Managing emotions

Once you know what you are feeling. You can use tricks to control and even change our emotions.

Some tricks

· Use music — refer to this article

· Body language to Emotional response — For ex. If you smile you feel happy

· Breathing techniques — Give you more control over emotions


Emotional Intelligence is an important ability in the 21st century.

Emotional Intelligence consists of :

  1. Self-management
  2. Self-awareness
  3. Social awareness
  4. Relationship management

To build EQ — Listen, Empathize and Reflect



Aayu Kharbanda

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